
Graduating from high school, I jokingly announce that I will be retiring from swimming. But I should have known better. Once a swimmer always a swimmer.
Graduating from high school, I jokingly announce that I will be retiring from swimming. But I should have known better. Once a swimmer always a swimmer.
The five of us are squished into a hotel studio. Our proximity to each other is driving me crazy. There’s hardly any space. It’s not just that the sofa is pulled out into a bed. It’s not just that the cushions are laid out all over the ground because Ken refuses to share a bed with anyone. It’s not just that take-out boxes filled with leftovers are cluttering the tabletops because my parents always order appetizers they assume we’ll eat even though we very clearly state beforehand that the mains we order for ourselves will fill us up and so we will not be helping them in eating the appetizers.
I haven’t been going to InterVarsity Christian Fellowship large group meetings very consistently. There always seems to be an excuse like having some other thing I need to be at or just being “too tired” to go. Because I don’t see the girls at large group as often as they see each other, I feel like I don’t know them very well, certainly not as well as they know each other. Sometimes I don’t even know who to talk to, except for the leaders, and that’s because it’s their job to welcome me.
So I surprise myself when I sign up for Chapter Camp, an InterVarsity Christian retreat. The upperclassmen who had gone before raved about it. Many of them joined their sophomore year but wished they had done it their freshman year as well. I don’t want to find myself in that position, so to heck with it! I sign up. What sold it for me were the pictures from previous retreats. I saw the lake, the zipline, the blob (see above)… It’s like an actual camp! Not just some program on a college campus. I’ve never been to an actual camp before. Seems adventurous. And like there’d be many photo opps 😉
I put my fear aside and sign up for the retreat despite there being a bunch of things I don’t have to be but am worried about, because I know that this will be good for me. Signing up is the easy part. Actually following through is the hard part. But by signing up, I have committed to going, committed to the people who will be organizing the retreat. So I will go. And I’ll face fear when it finds me.
ONE // Min lilla hall för kanske sista gången (translation: my little hall for perhaps the last time)
I lived in a double last year, but as a Peer Mentor this coming year, I will be in a single. Last year my fabulous roomie did all the decorating–my half of the room was naked in comparison for reasons–but this year I’m taking charge, since, well, I don’t have a roomie to mooch off of anymore. I’ve been waiting for this in eager anticipation even before the school year ended, channeling my energy by creating mood boards with Tumblr and Pinterest. When creating a palette, find indirect inspiration.
There isn’t a lot of space in a college dorm room, so you’ll have to make the most of it. We’re all familiar with the idea of exposed storage, perhaps displaying clothes on a bellhop instead of stuffing them in your closet (x) (x) (x) (x) (x) (x), but have you ever thought about hanging things on rebar? I also love how Sebastian sticks his notes upon hanging brown wrapping paper rather than traditional cork board, although I’d never say no to a cork board wall. Spruce up your wall by turning it into a gallery.
The most effective way to free up space in your room is to go minimal and simplify your life. There’s a bunch of junk in my room at home, and I brought a fair amount of it with me to college. I didn’t notice how much I had until I needed to pack everything up in boxes for storage at the end of the school year. I was able to weed out my things by keeping only what sparks joy, but I still have some excess goods to sort through. Over my next three years of college, there will without a doubt be keepsakes I’ll want to hold onto, but my advice is to collect experiences, not things. With oversized photo booth prints?
Add personal touches with DIY projects. Give your room some life by adding a plant or two. If you’re not gifted with a green thumb, you could opt for the adorable cactus pincushion, no water required. But c’mon… SUCCULENTS!!! Stick your mini succulent garden in a wood base terrarium. Dress your walls with faerie lights and garlands (macrame yarn and clay phases of the moon) and did I say faerie lights? My favorite project has got to be the papier-mâché animal head. It’s also perfect for any bibliophile.
TWO // Fairy toast, three ways
It’s almost torture every time a recipe pops up on my Bloglovin’ feed because, living on campus, I don’t have convenient access to a kitchen. All I have is the kettle in my room and the microwave, toaster, and refrigerator in the pantry hall. To save us the fate of munching on nothing but cereal all day because we can’t bother walking to the dining hall, I’ve rounded up some heaven-sent no-bake/cook/etc. recipes.
Mug cakes are my go-to because minimal ingredients are needed, they’re quick, and I like mugs. And cake. Try these pumpkin pie, almond butter and cinnamon, and chocolate mug cake recipes. They’d also make great birthday presents, because who doesn’t like cake? Find a nice mug to gift them, cook up a mug cake, and stick a candle on top (just for decoration though because no open flames). More dessert options are raw apple pie, single-serving apple crisps, and pumpkin cream donut sandwiches.
And what’s college without alcohol? Jk, I don’t drink, but it’s cool that I have the option to. Well actually I legally don’t, but people don’t reallyyyy expect you to abide that. Okay maybe they do but whatever. These double-stuffed Oreo Jell-O shots are sure to be a hit. If you’re going for sophistication, perhaps pair your wine with fancy cheese balls. For those who want to live on the safe side of things but still want to have fun, here’s a quick guide to making any kind of mocktail, with a few recipes to get you started. A healthier option would be this budget juicing recipe. Or go really healthy with a salad jar.
THREE // How to overcome the midday slump
I haven’t had any responsibilities this summer. My days are a blur of TV shows (I’ve burned through House and The 100, and I’m making my way through Downton Abbey), photo editing, reading, and Goldfish. I’m a little worried how I’m going to get back in the swing of things once the school year starts. Chances are I’ll be slumping all day, so I’ve condensed some productivity tips for quick motivation:
+fuck the shoulds, do the wants (just do the fucking dishes)
+get inspired by other people (getting out of a funk)
+be curious (enthused learning)
+play devil’s advocate (daily habits to be smarter)
+think big picture, celebrate little milestones (stay motivated working)
+use people’s names and remember personal details (7 habits of highly influential people)
+never touch things twice (11 habits you should definitely steal from ultraproductive people)
+closing a tab is the new crossing off (most annoying productivity tool)
Shameless plug: Find more of these “condensed mantras” on Twitter @auderoylin. Come say hi!
FOUR // How to stop a panic attack
Being in a rigorous academic environment away from home can get even the best of us. Believe in yourself and all that you are. Don’t fall prey to the imposter syndrome. You chose this school and they chose you. You deserve to be here. Of course it’s natural to be scared, and in fact, if you’re not scared, you’re not doing it right, because all the best things involve taking a risk.
Nowadays there’s more online transparency about anxiety disorder, so we understand that for some people it’s not as simple as telling yourself to calm down, that everything will be okay. I get anxious now and then, but I wouldn’t say that I suffer from anxiety. I can’t empathize and say that I know what it’s like, so I’ve found some tips from people who might have a better understanding of it than I do.
Suspend mis-belief: “The things happening in the world around us don’t revolve around us, and aren’t part of a story. They’re just happening. Often, it’s all random, but to deal with this chaos, we try to make sense of it as part of a story. We create meaning where none exists.”
This reminds me of a quote I discovered via Marevoli by John Corey Whaley: “Life, he says, doesn’t have to be so bad all the time. We don’t have to be anxious about everything. We can just be. We can get up, anticipate that the day will probably have a few good moments and a few bad ones, and then just deal with it. Take it all in and deal as best we can.”
When you feel overwhelmed, take your own advice, just start by doing one thing, and let whatever you get done today be enough. Break routine. Know when to walk away and start something new. Listen to these 10 TED Talks for when you feel totally burned out. Get a good night’s rest despite stress using tricks like left-nostril breathing. Do some sneaky exercise because endorphins rock.
FIVE // High five New York
Dat leap doe. I hope it put you in the mood for approaching strangers and making new friends. I know that I need as much encouragement for this as I can get, so maybe you do too. I grew up with the same people from fifth grade until twelfth, never changing schools as mine ran from pre-K to twelfth, so I didn’t need to worry about making/having friends for eight years. I didn’t need to try. I could be totally and completely myself. They’d understand if I didn’t want to go out, without thinking any less of me.
But now really calls for all the extrovert in me. My chapter leader was driving me back from Chapter Camp, and, you know road trips, we got to know a little more about each other. I’ve always thought that she was an extrovert, but I found out that there’s more to her than meets the eye, as there usually is with anybody. She told me that at heart she’s an introvert, but she can be an extrovert when she needs to be, because that’s the kind of character her job calls for. It’s not that an introvert shouldn’t be themself, but that a little step out of their mind is helpful in reaching out to others and bringing them in.
During my first few weeks of college, I, alone, would sometimes sit with people (and even groups of people) I didn’t know. I just walked right up to them, asked if I could take the empty seat, and introduced myself as a helpless first year. That was usually enough to spark conversation and it was what I relied on. I’m so glad I had the balls to do that as the new girl. Now I’m a sophomore so I can’t really play that card, and sometimes I’m the one introducing people rather than the one meeting someone new.
Still, my greatest fear is not having anything to say, especially with people I don’t know. Even with people I do know, I’ll ask them how they’re doing, they’ll say they’re fine, and in my head I’ll be like, okay cool, nice talking to you too, so next time, instead try asking, “What did you do today?” For more conversational tips, check out these 9 TED Talks to inspire smart conversation. If all else fails, you could make a fun placemat that gives you potential topics to begin conversations with. lol
BONUS // A three year old delivers the most intense motivational speech of all-time
+27 times Squidward perfectly captured the college struggle
+70 things you can score with your student ID
+tipping etiquette guide
I tried holding off writing this post because who wants to be reminded about school over summer break? Seriously, don’t you want to just smack people who talk about grades over summer break? Or really any time? But I think I’ve held off for long enough. It’s already the end of July, and I have to be back at school by August 21 for dorm leadership training and classes start on September 2. Better to be prepared than in denial and then have school hit you like a bus! But let’s not get all down in the dumps. Getting ready for the school year can be quite exciting, especially with a dorm room to decorate…
Are you ready for the school year? We got this! 😀
PS: part two and bonus of FF7, part three of FF5, part five of FF4, part one of FF3, part three of FF2
I was still a little amazed that this was happening. That this, the thing that had seemed so impossible, so terrifying, so utterly beyond me, was happening. I was having fun. And that I was the one who made it happen.
ONE // Crème brûlée topped cinnamon rolls
If that isn’t enough for you, try the naturally sweet dark chocolate coconut bites, rose flavored rock candy, and 26 foods even more fun on a stick. And after you’ve made your delicious food, well, you gotta take a picture! Otherwise it’s not official, duh 😉 Try these food styling and photography tips. If you want good food without having to make it yourself, go out for Pressed Juicery Freeze. The freeze is “pretty much exactly what you’d expect from their cold-pressed juice line — nutrient-dense, small batch, vegan — only blended to a fro-yo like consistency, creating the perfect summer treat.” What you eat can change the world. If this kid doesn’t convince you of it, I don’t know who will. Of course, it won’t be easy, but you’re not alone! Here are some honest thoughts about going vegan.
TWO // You’re probably type A-minus
Are you a type A personality? Or more like a type A-minus? Whatever you are, say it loud and proud and believe in the power of I Am. Tell others that you’re proud of them too! Maybe what you need is balance. Maybe all you need is to come to terms with the contradictions in your life. Maybe you’re in a funk you need to get out of. Maybe you need to find your zen. Maybe you need to create a vision board. Try different things, because trying is always worth it.
THREE // How I design a full brand and website in just two weeks
Many of you probably already have your own blog, and many of the rest of you are probably thinking about starting one. You might have waited until summer to do it, as you have more time now than you have during the school year. That’s what I did anyway (I originally launched my blog on Tumblr on September 30 and relaunched my blog on Blogspot on August 14). And you can do it too, starting right now! Don’t be afraid to promote yourself; someone’s gotta tell someone about your blog! I wouldn’t recommend getting into blogging solely for the money, but you shouldn’t be ashamed of making money either; you put hard work into it, so you should get something out of it. Something I didn’t know when I first started was that working with sponsors isn’t the only way to make a living as a blogger. I didn’t have to worry much about it (and still don’t) because I don’t accept any sponsorships or advertisements, but I’m open to collaborations. I’m a big believer of focusing on your own work, writing your own posts, doing your own photography. To get you started, here’s a manual mode cheat sheet. I personally don’t like using stock photos, but if you’re not focusing on photography, try stocksy.
FOUR // DIY rose pink hair + braid
As I mentioned in my summer bucket list, I really want to dye my hair and pierce my ears. I fell in love with this rose pink hair as soon as I saw it, but I’m not sure if I can pull it off. Honestly at this point I don’t even care. You don’t know until you try it! If it ends up looking horrendous, I’ll just hide it in a ponytail or hat or something. I just want to knowww. Anyways, in other fashion and beauty news: how to sound like you’ve been going to couture shows all week, smooth summer legs, items for tired eyes, concealer hacks, reshaping brows, triple bun half updo, and Laura Mercier bath honey in golden honey musk review. Also check out this interesting reason for saying no to “flattering” clothes.
FIVE // Want waterproof books? Support Bibliobath
I’ve dreamed about waterproof books since forever, and now it’s real! After acquiring several books on my iPad, I’m finally back in the rhythm of reading habitually and have finished four books this week: The Best of Sherlock Holmes by Arthur Conan Doyle, Girl Online by Zoe Sugg, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before by Jenny Han, and I’ve just finished Since You’ve Been Gone by Morgan Matson this morning. Next up is The Maze Runner by James Dashner! Now I’m only two books behind my 2015 Reading Challenge. Add me on Goodreads to stay updated! I will also be posting “book reviews” (more like quote hoards) on the blog. Need book recs? Check out all 339 books referenced in Gilmore Girls.
UNRELATED // Just finished making pancakes with my little/tall brother Danny, like one minute ago! The last pancake was the most circular and so beautiful, but we love pancakes of all shapes and sizes! (on my Snapchat story @auderoylin.)
BONUS // F*ck that: a guided meditation.
THIS IS HILARIOUS AND HAS MADE MY WEEK.
How has your week been?
Catch me burrowed in a book with some boba on hand. My life is pretty average, but it’s the little things that count, right? Thanks for stopping by! -Audrey